If you click on your LOGIN NAME in the upper right of the screen you will see User Control Panel appear. Click on that.
Once in User Control Panel (UCP) you will find many settings.
- Under Edit Global Settings I have Users can contact me by email turned off. I suggest you do as well unless you like others to contact you DIRECTLY via email! The link to that page is: ucp.php?i=ucp_prefs&mode=personal
- Under Edit notification optionsSelect the items you want to get email about. In my case, I set to get email if Someone sends you a private message only. The link to that page is: ucp.php?i=ucp_notifications&mode=notification_options
- I also set another setting under Edit posting defaults and clicked "yes" to Notify me upon replies by default so I know when someone replies to me.